Loss of a Pet

Perhaps the best answer to that question is that there is no “correct” time to get another animal. What is disturbing to many pet owners is the pressure from concerned friends to fill the empty place in their home and life as quickly as possible, to “get over it” and find a new pet.

The timetable of an individual’s recovery from loss is intrinsic to the person themselves and their relationship with their pet; some feel that they can and should get another as soon as possible. If so, this was done out of love and courtesy to the previous pet, and the joy that a new puppy or kitten can bring should not be tinged with guilt for having done so quickly. For others, years can pass before the time feels right to get a new animal. The place occupied by that pet was so large, and the loss so overwhelming, that finding emotional space for another is not possible.

When considering getting a new animal, be sure that you are prepared for the time and emotions needed to be given to this new pet. No animal could ever hope to replace the special relationship that was shared with a former animal, expecting this would be cruel to the new animal, as it is simply unrealistic. However, every animal, like every person, brings all of their uniqueness to a new owner. Going to pet shops and shelters, looking around, and waiting for an animal to strike your fancy may be the best way to go about acquiring a new pet. If this makes you uncomfortable or brings up too many bad memories, it is ok to stop and wait. When the time is right, you will know, and a new animal will find you.

Here is a short list of things to look for in an animal that is grieving:

The best way to help your animal through this time, which is as difficult for them as it is for us, if not sometimes more so, is to give them time, and allow them to grieve with you. It may be helpful for you as well as for your pet to spend time together talking about or silently remembering the one who has passed on. Trying to spend extra time and attention with your animal will be good for you as well as for them, playing special games with them, giving them special treats, etc.

In cases of severe grieving, when an animal stops eating, cries incessantly, self-mutilates (cats especially), or seems especially anxious, your veterinarian may be able to suggest medication to relieve the anxiety associated with the loss.